About this site

This site is dedicated to creating greater safety and spiritual intimacy between spiritual teachers and their students.

This is not a site that chronicles spiritual teachers’ misdeeds. Nor is it a place for excusing or explaining away spiritual teachers’ misconduct. Its focus is on building stronger, safer student-teacher relationships—and stronger, safer spiritual communities. This includes reducing future misconduct by spiritual teachers.

This site also contains information on the book Sex and the Spiritual Teacher: Why It Happens, When It’s a Problem, and What We All Can Do, which was published by Wisdom Publications in March 2011, as well as information on the book’s author, Scott Edelstein, and his talks at bookstores and spiritual centers. This site also contains an excerpt of the book, related articles on the subject, and audio and video interviews with Scott.



A petition is circulating on Change.org regarding Marc Gafni, the former rabbi (his ordination was rescinded) and spiritual teacher. In this petition, 3000 signers, including 100+ rabbis and figures such as Joan Boysenko and Erica Fox, warn the world against Gafni, and urge Esalen Institute, Whole Foods’ CEO John Mackey, and others to break all ties with him. To read or sign the petition, go to https://www.change.org/p/whole-foods-www-esalen-com-stop-marc-gafni-from-abusing-again?recruiter=80810594&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink 

Simultaneously, a similar document, signed by Deepak Chopra, Andrew Harvey, and many others, was sent to 180,000+ people, warning them against Gafni.

On January 10, a group of 17 Gafni’s former students issued a public letter, detailing his “web of lies, deception and abuse,” publicly disavowing him as a teacher of any kind, and calling for everyone who supports him to “immediately retract their support and remove him from any position of authority and influence.”

On January 12, the Jewish publication Forward published Sara Kabakov’s article, “I Was 13 When Marc Gafni’s Abuse Began,” which details his sexual abuse of her over a protracted period.

Between Christmas 2015 and mid-January, many other articles have been published about Gafni in The New York Times, the New York Daily News, The Times of Israel, Tablet, The ForwardHaaretz, and many other publications. Attorney Elizabeth Sorvillo (elizabethsorvillo.com) has agreed to advocate on behalf of people with legal claims against Gafni.

For complete details on Marc Gafni and the current wave of condemnation and denunciation, see Bill Harryman’s detailed commentary: http://integral-options.blogspot.com/2016/01/marc-gafni-beneath-and-behind-denials.html


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